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Private Memorial Services are often difficult to organise on short notice. Check out the order of service which together with memorial verse or scriptures will help make the task easier.

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Garden of Remembrance


Most crematoria and many burial grounds have a garden of remembrance. In the case of crematoria these normally provide an area for interment or scattering of the ashes, this is usually in a place which can be easily identified in the future.

Churchyards


Churchyards do not usually allow the scattering of ashes, preferring either burial or strewing.

Interment in a grave or
ashes plot


Ashes may be interred in a grave even if that grave is full for normal burials (providing there is a legal right of burial). Most churchyards, crematoria and Local Authority Cemeteries have a dedicated area where individual small graves called Ashes Plots can be purchased. Woodland burial sites are also available for the interment of ashes, however, not all will allow this.

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Columbarium or Crypt


Some crematoria have a columbarium; this usually takes the form of a covered walkway between the crematorium chapel and the Garden of Remembrance. One or both walls of the walkway are usually made up of small compartments called Niches, these hold at least one urn or casket, they are then sealed with a memorial tablet. Where a crypt exists either at a crematorium or church a similar procedure is adopted allowing for one or two urns to be contained behind a memorial panel.

Burial/Scattering at Sea


Ashes may be scattered or buried at sea, however, there are relatively stringent conditions with regards to burial.

Private Procedures


You may wish to scatter the ashes privately at a favourite place, depending upon your choice of area landowners permission may need to be sought. You may also need to inform the water authority if the land adjoins a waterway.

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Cremation Scattering Methods

  Casting Ashes:

is the act of simply tossing the ashes to the wind. Usually done by one individual while others look on. Care and consideration of others should be used when casting. Check the direction of the wind and cast down wind. The ashes are mostly made up of a dense sand like matter and will quickly fall to the ground but some of it will be a fine powder and this will become airborne forming a cloud. Casting can also be done as a group. People can take turns scattering a little at a time. I have also seen group scattering where multiple people scattered simultaneously in a toast-like gesture using paper cups.

Trenching Ashes:

This is done on land when a shallow trench or groove is dug in the soil. A hoe works well. Then the trench is filled from the scattering urn and usually racked over at the conclusion of the ceremony. You can get creative and dig the persons name in the soil, maybe inside a heart, then fill the void with the ashes. If its not too windy, candles can go in the ground alongside the trench for a more spiritual feel. Imagine filling a trenched name in beach sand and having the group form a ring around it. You can place and time it right so the tide will come up and wash the remains back to the sea while you all wade in the surf and share memories.

Ringing Ashes:

This is when we form a ring on the ground around an object or even a group of objects, it can be with or without a trench. The scattering urn will need to be held close to the ground when pouring the ring. Some ideas include a ring around a favorite tree or shrub. How about a ring around a group of candles or a memory table? The survivors can be the outer ring and take turns entering the ring to share words of remembrance.

Raking Ashes:

The ashes are poured from the scattering urn evenly on loose soil and raked into the ground, at the conclusion of the scattering ceremony. This is often how it is done in the scattering gardens that are now located in many cemeteries. Your funeral director can help you find a scattering garden in your area.

Cremation Ashes Green Burial:

A hole is made in the soil and the ashes can either be poured in or a biodegradable scattering urn can be placed in and covered. Many cemeteries will let you scatter on the grave site as long as the remains are buried. If the cemetery requires an urn, the biodegradable scattering urn style is often permitted. Multiple scatterings or green burial can be done on one grave even if a casket has been buried the ashes can go on top. As with any ashes scattering it is important to establish a permanent memorial so survivors have a place to continue remember and heal in the years to come.

Scattering Ashes Over Water: (need environmental agency permission)

When scattering ashes over a body of water a water-soluble urn can enhance the experience. These urns are specifically designed to gradually disperse the ashes back to the sea. Ashes can be cast directly into the water, but will often blow back at the boat and cling to the sides of the boat. This can be both frustrating and unsightly. A water-soluble urn will usually float for several minutes then slowly sink where it will degrade or melt back to the sea. The survivors will often toss flowers or petals as a final tribute as the urn slowly drifts away. There are professionals with boats available that will do either private water scatterings or create an event were the survivors may voyage and participate.

Aerial Ashes Scattering:

Usually done by professionals, this is done when the ashes are cast from a private plane. See the resources section of this web site for Arial ashes scattering providers in your area. Some of them will coordinate with your ceremony to fly over and scatter the ashes at a specified place and time. On clear days a cloud of ash can be seen from the ground. Most professionals will provide a certificate of the place and time and even photos. Some will allow passengers to attend the scattering of ashes for an extra fee.